Uncle Mike

As I mentioned previously, my Uncle Mike died on July 31st. Though he had some medical issues, it was still quite a shock because he was the youngest of my mother’s siblings. We weren’t as close as we should have been, but on reflection I don’t know f anyone sans Mom and Aunt Carol was. Uncle Mike was a psychologist and had an observer personality. He was one of those people that though you were talking to him, and he was talking, you were really the one revealing things. As one of those personalities, too, it made for some unrevealing conversations between us. Though, in the last handful years he’d started talking about things, like some of the stuff he did in Vietnam, etc. Sadly we didn’t get to see him much because we live down here and he was in Waterloo, Nebraska.
If you asked how much time we spent with him my first answer would be that he wasn’t around much, but after thinking about it, that’s not true. He just came in and out. I think we actually spent more time with him than we realized. It just wasn’t solid time because he yo-yo’d back and forth between Iowa and New Mexico until recently.He always seemed to be the more sophisticated, with it kind of uncle – the perpetual bachelor with his video games and such. He was the one gave us our first Nintendo, in fact. When I was 12 he bought himself a new one and gave us his old one (my mom wouldn’t let us have one because they “ruined your imagination” but since it was a gift she couldn’t do anything about it, LOL!) He was also the one who got me to eat McDonald’s Cheeseburgers. For some reason as a small child I didn’t like them and so as I got older I never bothered to try them again. Then when I was babysitting for his girlfriend of the time’s kids, as a surprise they brought home a bag of cheeseburgers. Turned out they were good after all 😉
he was also very supportive of my writing endeavors and was a vampire fan (he loved True Blood). He also wanted to be a writer and had several books he’d written but never published. If we can find them I may try to type them up and put them on Smashwords as freebies. He had one that was accepted to publish back in the 80’s but then the publishing company folded.
I could go on with a lot of boring trivial crap like that, but no one really cares except me. I was originally going to just do a cheating post and type up the eulogy the minister wrote, but it’s kinda long. SO, instead, since we scanned off a bunch of pictures to send to my Aunt, that’s what you’re getting. Also of note, I got a couple of his old photo albums from when he was in Germany and am going to scan those pictures off to for no particular reason except that I can;t stand to see a photo thrown away. A photo is a captured moment; someone thought that it was special or important enough to immortalize and to throw it away is like saying that that moment or that memory is irrelevant or meaningless. I dunno. I’m weird I guess.
Touching tribute, love the photos and so sorry for your loss 😦
Thanks so much
Excellent – he sounds a lovely man. I had an uncle Michael too – and I blogged it too. It really helps. If you wanna talk about it – let me know. I didn’t see my uncle much either. And I do miss him. You will too. It’s ok
He was a really interesting guy. i wish we’d spent more time with him.
I’m very sorry for your loss sweetheart. If you ever need to talk, I’m here. And you’re not weird when it comes to pictures. They should never be thrown away, those were precious moments to someone and should be kept. Many hugs!!!
Thanks 😉 Nice to know I am not alone in that! One of the saddest stories I’ve ever heard is one my dad tells about a garage sale he went to once when he was young. A man had died and they were selling off his things, and as he was browsing he happened to look int he trash can and there were all these photos of the man’s life, just thrown away and he thought then, “What’s the point of it, then? You just end up as a pile of memories no one cares about”. That just depresses me beyond belief! 😦
I love you, Mike and I will miss you so. A beautiful tribute, sweetheart. I’m sure he would be pleased with it.
Thanks 🙂 *hugs*
I’m so sorry for your loss. I love the tribute you’ve made in his honor. As a side note, I have a collection of old photos from a resale shop. There was a pile of them for only a dollar or two. They were from the early 1900s, judging by the clothes and the paper they were printed on. I bought them because I felt bad that they ended up in a place like that. I thought they needed a home. I just need to make sure that I keep them away from MY old family photos. No need to confuse future generations.
Sending you hugs from Michigan.
Juli
Thanks! I;d love to get my hands on some old photos. I once saw an old photo album (early 1900’s/late 1800’s) at a jumble sale for 5$ that had photos in it, but I was broke so I missed the chance at it.
heh-heh, why not? confusing the future descendants can be fun 😉